Saturday, October 26, 2013

What is Success?

What does success look like?  
Then, in particular for you: at 20/25/30 years old, what would cause you to call yourself a success?

300+ words, conversation-style.  

25 comments:

  1. Though I don’t believe the statements I am about to present are completely, 100 percent permanent opinions (or even make any sense), they are opinions that I believe in now…
    I believe in order to achieve success one should be happy…
    Though I understand the definition of happiness is quite broad and could possibly make my argument somewhat confusing, I think there is a perfectly good reason to why happiness cannot be defined by one word or sentence. All humans, animals, anything that can feel, develope their own definition of happiness; a definition that could change in a minute or year depending on their life at the time of this formation.
    Because happiness is different for everyone, in my opinion, accomplishing success is different for everyone as well. Happiness doesn’t always have to be defined as a long term goal or over the course of a lifetime. Success doesn’t need to be a goal reached in adulthood or at one’s death bed. Happiness is a feeling, not something one can control or plan out. One would hope that they would be happy all the time, yet unhappiness is often inevitable… However, happiness can be found everyday… it can be achieved within minutes or even seconds, and if one feels this way each day, I would define that as success.
    At the age of 20 to 30 or even 100, using my definition of success as stated above, I would feel successful if I was truly happy at any time… Whether that meant I was married, had just landed my dream job or even just heard a funny joke; as I noted before, happiness can be achieved within seconds and if one can find themselves happy for most of their life, by all means, give them an award, because they are successful...

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  2. For me, happiness comes in unpredictable and fleeting moments, so I feel safer finding success through tangible goals. I personally define these goals on two different levels: my day to day growth, such as good test scores or better moments with friends, and over time, my ability to grow and push myself past my comfort level academically, socially, and in other areas. Accordingly, small successes against small challenges lead me through life, allowing me to succeed in an overall astounding growth past where I would be if I didn’t follow this path. As an academic example, one night I will study as much as I can for the next day’s test and over that month, I slowly grow as a student and learner, becoming prepared for more difficult workloads and concepts, pushing out of my comfort zone. I succeed in my ability to succeed - I evolve. In pushing past my these boundaries, I am alive: I can move and do. I gain emotional and intellectual power as I break down fears that used to hold me back.

    I believe this change and development, opposing a static existence, is truly success for it grants life; I don’t believe anyone was born to simply remain untouched and untouching. If we fail to do and gain something in our lives, even if this something is self improvement, we have wasted our time and failed. Life is about experiencing and taking advantage of opportunities while we can, and to remain in the comfort zone, unchanging, deprives us of living. I especially love learning because it gives me intellectual power to move. With a more robust mind I can achieve extensive goals and experience unbelievable events in my lifetime.

    When I’m 25, I hope to be working on a graduate degree so that I can challenge my mind and expand my ability to think much past what I’ve ever thought possible, granting me more power for adult life. However, I also hope to develop socially as well, because with increased connections I will experience a wider variety situations and events, and friends will bring me a baseline satisfaction in life. In this sense, I will develop myself to my best of abilities to continue living, constantly growing.

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  3. Dina Kharag
    To me, success counts when a person’s goal can be recognized by other people in their community as well as themselves. A question that can follow after would be how does this happen? How does this occur? First, a person needs to have a goal in mind. It can be complex as wanting to help their local elementary school to something simple of wanting to get good grades. Even though these goals have different outcomes, the purpose to do them are the same since they involve a want to change. You’re family and friends will be the first people to notice this because they are the ones who know you the most. So they’ll be rooting for you to be able to achieve this goal. Next, the people to notice this change will be yourself. Even though in the movies, when a change happens it gets noticed right away. In reality, accepting the change is more of a conscious choice. Like when you’re failing your grades, its your choice to decide to try to change it. To accept the new change will help lead you to become more successful.
    I feel this idea of being successful stays with a person as they get older, especially when he/she is 20 years old. This is the time when a person will be thinking how to be successful in college with their social lives while still being on their way to get the degree they want. So at this time in age, to be successful, you need to balance the two. With being able to do this, the people who’ll recognize this will be your friends, teachers, and parents (if you still talk to them that is). The second person to notice this, and the most important one, is yourself. This is the case because sometimes a person can’t tell if they’re successful or not until a person tells them that they are. So if a person tells you you’re being successful, your succeeding in the way that you’re impacting your community around you with your success.

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  4. Personally, I find happiness and reward in not a particular moment or accomplishment, but in the satisfaction of acknowledging the hard work put into achieving a goal.
    As an athlete, measures of success have come predominantly within my life through running. Similarly to other activities in life, you need to try hard to accomplish any task. I think the ultimate satisfaction, or that “runners high,” is unlike any successful feeling I’ve ever felt. The only way to be faster, stronger, and race smarter, is to push yourself past what you feel is physically possible, and the satisfaction of this comes because doing so- reaching that point of utter chaos, between your mind and body- the point of which you feel like giving up- that you dig a little deeper and find the courage and strength to push just a little bit harder.
    I believe running is the purest form of self improvement, as you are not out there to make anybody work harder but yourself, nor are you there to compete with anybody but yourself. I have found that there will be a point in every run, race, practice, where your body starts giving in, and you are left with nothing more than mind over matter; which to be honest, is a little scary- running really fast and breaking new Personal Records is nerve-racking because doing so means being in a lot of pain. Choosing whether or not you will handle that pain- is where that successful feeling comes it for me. A lot of times we forget how strong we are, and thereby do what feels comfortable. Being aware of your true strength, and making a point to stay out of your comfort zone is what really makes me happy, and thus, successful, coming across the finish line.
    In ten years time, I will feel successful if I can look back from where ever it is I’ll be then, and know the perseverance and hard work has lead to the build up of my strength as a person. When I’m much older, I’d like to smile at my past, rather than shake my head and wish I had done such and such. A bright and successful future for me will only come if the effort I put forth today is as strong as my desire for success.

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  5. I believe that success varies on each person and therefore success does not have on specific meaning or definition, but below each person’s definition or belief of what success is should lie the fact that whatever on is doing or has done brings satisfaction to one. I would have to agree one hundred percent with Jessica that with satisfaction happiness comes along from knowing that you have put in time and effort into something while working towards a greater goal. Knowing that you have done something to the best of your ability without giving up or calling it quits is success, its success because at moments one will encounter conflicts or hardships and the only way one will get out of this is by pushing through it and remaining focused to reach a certain goal. That is what success is, the sense of satisfaction brought out of hard work and improvement. This sense of relief, accomplishment and satisfaction allows one to know that they have done everything to the best of their abilities, which in turn is what success should be all about. Success alone is not all about money; although it is nice money should not be the root off being successful and instead it should be towards being satisfied with oneself and what one can put out and offer to others.
    At any age, whether if its 20/25/30 or even 99 years old, if I am doing with what I have said above I would define myself success. Being able to know that you are happy with what you are living and with what you have done, I feel that would make me a success. With this multiple opportunities will come out that will bring what others might define success as which is money or material possessions. If I know that I will work hard, put out my best work and live this will all be created, and money, cars, clothes and etc will come along. But most importantly I would be awarded with self-satisfaction, which is the biggest success will have.

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  6. I wanted to expand on Jessica’s idea of how pushing yourself and being aware of your strength is part of being successful. Most people who are successful in the world today haven’t gotten to where they are because they have played it safe. They are there because they have risked a lot and have made a lot of sacrifices. Staying away from your comfort zone is important to success. If everyone did what made them feel safe and secure all their lives, there wouldn’t be great things happening in the world every day.
    Thus, success for me is believing that some risks and sacrifices will be worth it in the end. It is believing that things can get better in your life because you are in control, to some extent, of what happens to it. Faith is not easy, and people who have it are strong and courageous. Success is overcoming your doubts about life and using your faith to help you strive in the face of so many possibilities of failure. People who give in to these fears fail simply because they stop trying once they don’t see the point of it anymore. Success is also getting up again and clawing your way back no matter how far you have already gotten or how far you have already fallen. It takes a lot of faith and strength to get back up since most people use their first failure as an excuse to stop trying.
    In my life, I want to know that I’ve taken a leap of faith to get where I’ll go later on. Success won’t mean anything to me if I haven’t sacrificed anything along the way. It also won’t mean anything if I don’t have to fight for it. I’ll be truly successful once I’ve struggled and have finally accomplished my goal in the face of the infinite possibilities of failure and the ever-present voice in my head that relentlessly reminds me of my doubts and insecurities.

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  7. What is success? It is something you can’t define, because it is different for everyone. The most common definition of success is an accomplishment or aim that someone attempts to makes and completes. However, success isn’t always common we everyday humans try to accomplish things and mostly fail. We think that success is impossible, we over think it way too much. We believe if we can’t finish it the first time, so we have to keep trying until we give up, so we never really succeed. I think success is something that sometimes doesn’t have to always due to happiness; I think that success can be defined by simple tasks that you can complete. I know that my success can’t be defined yet, because it hasn’t happened yet, all I can hope for is the best. At the age of 20 I see my success being someone who is finding who I am finally and what I want to be in life. I think that I will finally decide what I will be majoring in and that it is something I will enjoy for a life time or try something new? At 25 years, even at 30 years old I think I will be able to work and live on my own; my success would be making a pay check that benefits me and supports me. I think that the importance of success is that you feel like you have accomplished something and that you can be proud about it. I think that if you are satisfied you have succeeded, since sometimes you can’t always be happy when you succeed in something. I think that success is something that everyone should believe in, no matter how much one thinks they would fail, because you should always believe in yourself. You have no reason to not think you can do the impossible. You can succeed in everything as long as you are determined to.

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  8. When I think of success the first thing that comes to my mind is having family near and having food and shelter in order to survive. I think basic and essential when it comes to these things. But in today’s world, all these essential things are easily available to almost anyone, at least in the community I am a part of. Actually, in any community I’ve in, I always had the basic needs readily available. So, at this point, I cannot imagine myself without these things, and consider them as a regular part of my life. In a way, living a regular life in a first world country is being successful for me. This is why, for me personally there is more to success. I like to think of it as two parts. One part is the basics and essentials, but this part is the important, mandatory. And if the first part comes easy, I can start working on the second part, earning a lot. Yes, I realize that everyone always says “it’s not about the money” and “money is not everything”, but I often think to myself “why not?” If one also stops and thinks about what today’s world, where the essentials are available, and if not, you need money to get them. Everything is based on money these days, starting from food and ending with how a person is looked upon in the society. At the end of the day, it all comes down to the amount of money one has, and it doesn’t matter how he or she got there. When I do have a sufficient amount of money, I can make sure that my family is indeed close to me and I can even provide for it with ease. And food and housing shouldn’t be a problem. On top of this, I can afford to get anything I want and go anywhere I want and live my life happy. I do not think I would change the ways in how I live, the feelings and relationships I mean. I would still keep my priorities strait, family and friends first, everything else second. I would have the same life, just fancier and more allowing. For me to have this kind of life where there is a balance of everything would be considered a successful life.

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  9. I agree with Mark that having the essential needs to live in a first world country is a way of being successful. We are so privileged to live in a country that is more tolerant to different ethnicities and beliefs. I personally define success in living my life for God. This is my true and personal reason why I live. I am not writing this to judge those who are not Christians but I am trying to be as honest as possible. I have found that in my lifetime, I always try to get what I want. Success to me was getting that perfect SAT score or going to that dream college. I used to think that success was gaining all the things that I wanted and having my life to be the perfect American dream where I would get a job and raise a family. Through experiences, I have learned to depend on God because I know that I cannot attain success by myself. Success to me is treating others the way I want to be treated, encourage people who are in need, and paying less attention to myself. I am no perfect person at doing all of these actions but I know that if I try, God sees it and others will be able to see it. I also think that success is teaching others. It is extremely satisfying to see someone who is able to learn and apply that skill into their own lives. The ability to see the need for others and to help others is a sign of success. Success is found differently in everyone. I do not think that people should focus on being successful but doing things that makes them grow as a person. In return, they will be successful.

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  10. Success is about creating something that you love, that you will stand by and will leave a lasting effect on other people. You have to be your biggest fan and know that what you do and make is your best product. But you also have to be your biggest critic, you need to always push yourself and keep making you and your stuff better. Success is being the best you can be, but also knowing that you can always push the boundary and make it even better. Success is also what you do with your success. It's reaching people and leaving something behind. I personally believe that once I'm dead, if people that I don't know remember me or are affected by me, than I will have had a successful life. You have to help other people, or make them feel something, than you have a chance of being remembered. But to touch other people, you have to be assured with yourself. You have to be honest with yourself and with others. How are you going to go far in life and be successful if you're putting on a front to please others? Be confident, be honest, who cares if it makes you look like an asshole? You're doing you and that's all that matters. Don't care about what people think of you, care about what you make people think, what you make them feel. That's success. There are over 7 billion people in this world and if you can affect even one person, that's pretty amazing

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  11. I believe success is a relative standard to the community one lives in. Though goal of success is to receive happiness, different actions stimulate happiness within people of different societies. With this being said, success for me at the age of 20/25/30 would be relative to both my friends and families. I would be comparing myself to how much my brothers and friends have achieved when they were my age, and thus coming to conclusion of whether I have been successful enough. Example of this could be seen through my salary when I received my first job, or how much debt I have accumulated through college. Aside from this, I also believe success would be based on how well I have satisfied the expectations I set for myself. I would see if I have lived my life to the fullest of my ability in terms of seeing the world and experiencing new cultures and activities. However, this can be seen as a paradox (if this is the right word?) because the way to measure how well I have experienced new things would be relative to how much my friends and family have experienced new things (If that makes sense). Success is inadvertently bestowed or set upon us by the society we live in. It is natural human instinct to communicate and compare oneself with other individuals in an attempt to better or take a gauge of one self. The “so what” to this statement would probably be to find the environment that best suits an individual. Some people may find success in the rural areas of America where the tranquility of the backcountry constitutes to a successful home. Though we cannot prevent society from affecting our thoughts, we can decide where we want to develop and what ideas we want to be immersed within.

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  12. Success is those precious moments in life when worries fade into insignificance and an individual is surrounded by what they love. To find these moments, people have to accomplish goals or meet certain requirements. I think that success is a pretty complicated subject, since it’s definition varies greatly from person to person. However, I believe that success can be broken down into two main categories: satisfaction with self and interpersonal relations. These things are closely intertwined in that they impact each other, but in some ways they are also different. I see satisfaction with self to be success based upon personal accomplishments such as finding a good job, working hard, attaining monetary stability, and achieving personal goals. Personal satisfaction can also be thought of as personal acceptance; we cannot be successful if we do not wholeheartedly love ourselves, accepting the unchangeable traits we were born with. Success attained through interpersonal relations is a two way street. A person can find success either by feeling wanted by others, or by affecting someone else’s life and making others feel wanted. Both of these interpersonal successes are fragile, and cannot be found by everyone. For instance some people can never feel fully wanted, while other people don’t find it gratifying to affect another person’s life.

    For me to be successful at the age of, say, 30, then I would need to be married and have a job that I find enjoyable but also reasonably supports my family. While this is a simple baseline for my success, these things cover both the aspects of personal satisfaction in that I have a good job, and interpersonal relations in that I’m married. Beyond that, I would like if I do become a writer to write things that people actually care to read and take interest in, although I guess my own pride in my work would be more important than the attention of others.

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  13. Success is, plainly, getting what you want. However, this definition is broad enough to cover everyone and so doesn’t tell very much about the individual. Therefore my success is very different from someone else’s.
    Success comes in two parts, knowing what you want and working to achieve it. When someone doesn’t even know what they want, how can they work towards it? Growing up the generally accepted image of success was a very narrow one involving good grades, a good job and a white picket fence. And so until recently I just followed this like a lemming without knowing what I really wanted out of life. This is why people who achieve certain goals can end up unsuccessful. Thus the first step to success is defining it for yourself.
    The next step is carrying personally set goals out. These can range from very internal goals to very worldly. For me, I don’t really know what I want to do with my life, so I can’t hope to become successful there. However, I do have some idea of the person I hope to be. I want to be a positive influence on people, to not leave scars and to be supportive. But for me I want to be active, to do things. For example learning to play piano or keeping interesting pets. If I truly put myself into being this person and am satisfied with the results, then I am successful.
    It may seem like a simple task, but like communism, this is easier in theory than in practice. It is easy to say things you don’t mean or take life in a direction you don’t want. This is why success is thought of as something to strive for.

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  15. I agree with Jessica when she says success is “acknowledging the hard work put into an achieving goal.” Mahatma Gandhi once wrote, “Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment, full effort is full victory.” Gandhi understood that it does not matter how much talent or skill a person has if they do not have the effort and diligence to back it up. For one to be successful, they must have placed all of their energy and effort in order for them to surpass the barrier of what they thought was possible.

    When I was younger I was painfully shy. I was so insecure in myself that if a person were to say “hi” to me I would be so overwhelmed and confused, I would begin to cry. It wasn’t until my drama teacher at the time decided to take a chance and cast me as the lead role and the school play that I started to emerge into my shell. During the weeks and weeks of practice, I slowly started to socialize more and more with the other kids around me. Although they were wondering why I, a painfully shy little girl, was casted as the lead role, they were extremely supportive and did everything they could to make me more comfortable with those around me. Because of this, I was determined to succeed in my role. I did not want to let down all of my new friends. So I practiced. Almost all of my free time was making sure I memorized my lines. I made extra sure to practice in front of mirror so that I could see my own face and perfected all of my faces of emotion. I also made sure that I spoke loud enough so others could hear me. All of this was extremely hard but I was determined to succeed. I wanted to do well for my new friends, but I also wanted to do it for myself as well. I wanted to prove to myself that I could overcome my shyness. I put all of my effort into being the best person I could be so that I could make my new friends proud. In doing so I was able to overcome my fear of people. It didn’t matter that at the time of my performance I messed up a little because I knew I did everything I could to do the best I could.

    When I am 35 years old I would consider success when I look back on all of the things I have accomplished and say that I did my best. I would also like to say that I never had to sacrifice any of my loved ones during the process. It is okay to do your best in everything that you do, but I do not think that it is fine to get wrapped up in finding success and leave the ones you love behind in search for it.

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  16. Success is being able to overcome the obstacles put in front of us to keep us from achieving our goals. Our lives are filled with hundreds of adversities and we constantly find ourselves failing, being let down, or giving up hope, however when we are able to overcome those hardships and triumph - that is when, I believe, one is the most successful. I view my dad as a perfect example of what success is. My dad was living in an environment filled with many toxic distractions that kept him from achieving his dream of going to college. No matter how old we are or what our goals are, there are always going to be obstacles we are going to have to overcome. Some of those obstacles will be internalized - we may not have the self confidence to progress in something or try new things that we may end up loving. Some of those obstacles will be external - there may be something or someone keeping you from achieving your goals for whatever reason. However, if one works hard enough and puts all of their effort into getting what they want, those obstacles will eventually disappear and we will find success. At 30 and with two children, my dad made the decision to go back to school and in four years earned his BS in mechanical engineering. However, my dad faced hundreds of obstacles and was constantly told he wasn't going to succeed. But he triumphed and constantly tells me and others that going back to school was the best decision he ever made. When I am thirty, I feel successful if I am able to reflect on my life and know that I didn't let anything keep me from achieving my goals - I feel successful knowing that I work hard towards getting to wherever I will at the time in my life and not having any feelings of regret because I gave up on doing what I wanted to.

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  17. In my opinion, success is when you do something that you feel happy about afterwards. Success can be found anywhere, even when you fail a test, you still feel as if you put in the effort and gave it your all. I also think that to succeed to you actually need to set up some goals to accomplish, otherwise the everyday things that you do won’t really matter, and life will just seem the same every day. Creating a set of goals will not only make you feel successful, but it will also create a new experience every day (depending on what your goals are). These goals can also make everyday chores seem like a success, making you feel happier about what you’re doing. While you’re in college, and even going on a few months after college, I believe that organizing long term goals not only brings happiness and the feeling of success, but it would also help you feel more organized, and that could lead to feeling more successful with what you’re doing with your life. After college, perhaps after graduate school, when you’re around 25, it would be wise to continue having long term goals, especially when most people aren’t really settled in at that age, but you should also add simple everyday goals. These goals should now be less focused on what you want to do with yourself and more with what you want to do for others. Since at this age most people have more time on their hands, helping others more would increase the feeling of success and happiness, and goals would help to keep you focused on who you want to help.

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  18. I'd have to strongly agree with my fellow classmate Kate, primarily because I do believe that your ultimate success should have an affect on people. Going back to what I mentioned in class on Thursday, though success consists of a range of possibilities and definitions; I'd have to say success is an aspect that you reach and thrive from. Life is full off mountains and valleys, we will have our ups and we will also have those dreaded downs, however success is that push that motivates us to reach for the top. Also success to me doesn't have a limit, if you accomplish something; that feeling that you get, happy, prideful or whatever it might be should propel you to keep doing so. As human being I believe we are put on this earth for a reason, and with the time that's granted I'd like to think that we should all aspire to make a success out of our life while inspiring others to do so as well.
    I am not sure at what age I will reach that time where I feel like I am a success or others will look at me as a successful young man, yet I do expect to be done with college by 25 and going onto graduate school afterwards. I want to propel myself to a career where others benefit from me and my work, the satisfaction of making it that far along with being rewarding will be my success.

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  19. In my opinion, success can come in different forms, as Dina said. I agree with Olivia that success is when you find happiness. For me, happiness is when you are able to do something you love and enjoy doing. Like for example, volunteering. If a person likes to volunteer and do it regularly, I find that as something successful, because at the same time they are being productive and helping others, instead of doing something that they do not enjoy doing and not being happy. I also agree with Jessica that being successful is when you do something and know that you're trying your best in order to meet your goals. I think that although you are not fully able to achieve your goals, you will know that you're trying you best and that is enough to make you feel proud of yourself and know that you are being successful in the sense that you are doing something instead of just sitting back and wait for things to happen on their own, which won't really happen.

    In my opinion a way to obtain success is to set goals for yourself and work hard in order to achieve those goals. As I said before, if you don't try hard enough, you won't be able to achieve those goals, resulting for to you to be unsuccessful. But the only person to blame for being unsuccessful is yourself, which gets me to another point of what I think success is. I think in order to be successful, you have to be independent. Achieve your goals on your own, because that is a way of showing how hard you've tried.

    I have not yet become successful in the sense of becoming independent, because I still need help from other people. However, I am aware that it takes time for me to learn how become independent and I see myself become more and more independent after entering college, because I will have to learn things on my own and I know it won't be the same as high school is. This means that during my late 20's in order for me to be successful is for me to be independent and try my best to meet my goals to become a veterinarian.

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  20. At the age of 25, I would firstly think that still being alive and healthy would be a form of success for me. Considering the amount of dangers there are in the world and the amount of dangerous situations I willingly and unapologetically put myself in. I would be a little surprised and happy to be alive and well. Besides this fact I would also see the flip of responsibly parental wise as a success. At this point in my life I would hope that I could help my parents with things instead of the other way around. I feel like they spend 18+years feeding and paying my expenses, that by this time they wouldn’t have to look out for me, better yet I start looking out for them.
    But at the sometime at such a young age I would want to do something’s for myself. At the age of 25 I would consider taking risks and success. When I’m 25 I plan to not be married or have any kids. This is the one time were you can takes risks in life and not have it effect anymore. You’re too old for your parents to do anything and to young to have any dependants/ and or spouse. It’s a time to explore and try to new things. This is the time where you’re most free, so I would spend every minute of it doing something. Life is a collection of your best memories. For me to succeed I would try to add as many things to that collection as I could, because I only be able to make certain memories in certain times in my life. Even if I fail at things I skill should have a lot of life left to fix and learn from the mistakes I made.

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  21. Success is relative to whatever can make someone happy, it is not happiness. Success does not come from happiness. By being happy I don’t believe you can be successful, because it is fleeting and only temporary; but instead, true absolute stationary happiness comes from reaching success, and one of the many results from this feat.
    For me, at the age of 25, finding something I love and spending my life living it is success for me. To be able to live and not have anything dragging me back mentally, nothing that would or could make me feel like I’m useless, but instead to flourish, and by doing so helping those around me. My success is just as much dependent on me as it is on how I affect other people. But I don’t think that the way I affect someone makes me successful, but instead is an after effect of my achievement. A way of measuring that I have truly achieved what I wanted. It’s not that I want my success is tied to someone else’s happiness but that I am able to see what my success can accomplish. If I am successful then I believe that the people around me will be flourishing as well, because that is my definition of success. When you are successful, those who choose to be around you share that same level of peace.
    If I end of living the rest of my life doing what I love, then money doesn’t matter, because I am happy, money is only tied to success if that is what makes you happy. Success and happiness though closely tied do not have a proportional relationship, yet together they can form what we most crave in life, the unattainable satisfaction of self.

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  22. I personally agree with everyone's ideas of success and how they perceive it in their own perspectives. But to me, I genuinely feel that to obtain success, one must require the traits of respect and appreciation - all of which that are not easy to attain, but it drives us to pursue them in order to feel successful. Respect is a human nature that people should grasp because it primarily helps us to acknowledge and see the worth of ourselves. To respect your own morals and ethics and not let any obstacles hinder you from how you are. That is something that defines success itself. If you don't even respect yourself, how do you define yourself? Having respect for yourself is something that people shouldn't disregard because it shows your own signs of dignity which especially helps open more paths of success. You can have anything in the world and be successful but overall, what does it mean? It's not ideal to have everything in life that makes you successful, but to able to obtain it, you need to respect yourself and not be oblivious to the things around you. In addition, success can be also viewed through appreciation. Even if I am successful one day, in order to feel successful, I need to feel appreciative of the things that I've done in life. To be able to express gratitude, sincerity of what I've achieved. You can't just be successful without knowing why your your like that.
    When I am around 30 years old, I've already graduated from college, probably have started a family, getting a job as a civil engineer, and even living my own life as well. These are the ideas that I see as I dream towards the future and how I view them as successful to my life. I've learned to obtain success - feeling grateful about myself, admiring the things that have been given to me. By the time I get to this age, I've also learned to appreciate the things given to me as well. What my families have gratefully offered to me, appreciating the things I do, and to appreciate the life that I was given that leads me to this. I believe that through respect and appreciation, they are two traits that gives us success in life.

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  23. I agree with what Shemuel said. I also believe that attaining happiness relative to your surroundings define how successful you are. In addition to what he said, I think that the feeling of happiness defines most of your success. People often don't see how success is define by materialistic things and wealth. I don't think that having a billion dollars will necessary satisfy what you need in life. Satisfying your heart is the most important part to attaining happiness. I think many people don't see what their heart wants due to the view provided by society. They have their vision fogged up and start going in the wrong path of making lots of money when they should be following their hearts. I think the most important part of attaining success through happiness is sacrificing many aspects in life. They would have to be able to put their happiness before anyone else's. I personally struggle with this making it hard for myself to attain happiness. Being able to really grasp the idea that my happiness is far more important than anyone else's is the most difficult challenge I've ever encountered. I don't feel like I am successful because I'm not happy with what I have. I need to be able to find a part of me that allows me to let go of the fears that come along with putting everyone before me. What makes it harder is that whenever I try to be successful, I always let a feeling of guilt control my feelings. I feel guilty that I let my feelings come first to make myself happy rather than making others happy first. It's a difficult thing to prioritize but I'm on my way to success. Therefore, I think that success is the ability to understand what is needed in life to satisfy your heart and fulfilling them. If it doesn't fulfill what you need, let it go. It's hard to let go of something that's been there all your life to make this change but it is needed in order to be truly successful.

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  24. I agree with Till that success comes by pushing myself to strive for greater. For myself these goals usually this aren't some arbitrary construct set up by society, but my own measure of success. If I am not exploring the world through art and outdoor activities I tend to fall into a lull. I also find that success comes with self-awareness. Before I knew that things I had to do to make myself feel successful I tried to hard to achieve tangible goals that meant more to other people than they meant to me. I now know that I feel more accomplished when I try my best without overworking myself than I do when I push myself to the absolute limit. This doesn't mean that I won't push myself, just that I know where I need to stop in order to maintain sanity. I think this is important because I can still work hard but I no longer feel the need to drive myself insane in order to seek perfection. I think that the key to success for anyone lies in the realization that perfection is a flawed concept. In seeking perfection we find that nothing meets our standard and we are left disappointed regardless of how hard we try. I believe that learning to seek your goals in a way that works for you and challenges you without being overbearing is the only way to achieve success. And in the end, you must be successful in your own eyes rather than the eyes of others. You cannot be successful unless you allow yourself to feel pride in your accomplishment and the only way to do so is to learn to look at all influences without taking every word another person says to heart, and seek your own path to success

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  25. I agree with Fatima the Wolf, happiness is very important, and doing something you love (professionally) is the best way to achieve it. Even a low earning job, as long as its enough to sustain you, is fine with me. However to feel truly and completely successful I want to own a a house, and a car, and maybe even be married, by 33 if not 28 or 30 (yes 28 and 33 are specific, but they sound right to me!). Either way, if you're doing what you love, you can't help but be successful. You're getting paid for something that you would be willing to do for free, you're getting paid to enjoy yourself! I also agree with Thomas that by 25 you shouldn't be married, and that you're in the great limbo (as opposed to inferno, I suppose) where you don't depend on anyone, and no one depends on you. Making yourself happy, no matter what it takes should be your priority at that point. If I have the funds to be able to sit at home eat pizza and play video games that would definitely be success. Sweet, lazy success. Because thats the other thing about success, it doesn't have to be productive or helpful for anyone else. It can be completely selfish, in fact success usually is, it is a happiness that affects only you. Although you can succeed as group, only you feel your own individual success. Love is happiness you can share, success isn't. Success is mostly take, but I digress. Thats not the prompt. Basically as long as I’m not stuck in a menial job and am not completely alone I would feel successful at 30.

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